You will have read that diets don’t work and unfortunately those that hold this position are correct.
By the way this also applies to your finances but we’ll get to that later.
Over the last 20 years I have been both thin and fat, debt free and debt laden.
Currently I am carrying more fat and debt than I would like.
So why does this yoyo lifestyle happen.
The simple reason is because I have gone on many food and financial diets and as I said diets don’t work.
So what is the solution?
Well rather than going on a diet, you should change your diet for the long term and this applies equally to your food intake and your financial outgoings.
By focusing on the long term rather than the short term you can unravel the reasons you constantly fail when it comes to changing your life.
In a book called The Slight Edge, the steps needed to make this long term change are identified and explained. The most important step they highlight is to stop focusing on the end goal and the big changes needed to reach your goal.
Rather you should concentrate on making the smallest changes you can, small changes that don’t irritate your developed instincts.
Over time by building upon and constantly reinforcing these small changes to your normal routine, you will without realizing it have reprogrammed yourself into the person you identified as the one you always wanted to be.
Of course change is never easy regardless of how small each incremental step is.
Which is why on some days you may be that crazy person having an argument with themselves and sometimes the new you will lose. On those days it’s all too easy to eat the comfort foods or go out comfort shopping which then takes you back and reinforces the person you don’t want to be.
This is where weirdness comes in.
I am talking about meditation and I call it weird, only because there has been a lot of nonsense and over complication written about meditation but when you strip all of that away, this method to achieving inner tranquility becomes very simple.
Let me say that again, meditation is simply the ability to calm your mind such that all the noise and internal conflicts cease for a small period at least..
One of the easiest ways to meditate is to focus on your breathing, allowing your mind to calm down and achieve this meditative level of internal tranquility. For me I find the guided meditation given as a gift by Sanjib Mukherjee works perfectly well.
Now the real power of mediation comes when you revive your senses and become aware of your surroundings because at that moment you will have clarity of thought.
Only your most important issues will make their presence felt whilst all the insignificant noise and conflicts you started the meditation to escape from will remain quiet for a while
So how does this help with your desire for a cake or a new pair of shoes.
By keeping in mind how far you have come and how much you have, rather than on how far you have to go and how more you could have. You will give yourself the strength and justification to suppress the old you and appreciate what you have and where you are.es?
Overtime by maintaining this sense of perspective, those old self defeating instincts will silently fade away leaving only the best of you to shine brightly for the world to see.