I was fortunate enough to have a visit from a couple of friends this weekend. They came to visit me from overseas on their way to further travels and we had a wonderful time together. But their trip wasn’t quite smooth sailing.
They were supposed to leave San Francisco Airport at just after noon, but they didn’t end up leaving until nearly 10:00 at night.
Actually, neither my friends nor I know exactly. But there was some sort of mechanical problem on the plane. Apparently there was a loud, annoying noise that would make the flight an 11-hour headache for all involved.
What is it that make you jump for joy, spin in frustration or even explode in emotional outbursts.
In what way apart from jumping for joy does this benefit you?
The referee cannot hear your opinions neither can those television judges, so why do you provide your advice.
Of course releasing your emotions whether negative or positive is entirely healthy however why did you allow those negative emotions to ferment until they spilled over.
Currently I am reading a book titled “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” which focuses on this very topic.
Beauty they say comes from within.
You can of course like a catwalk model create an outward beauty using the skills of your dedicated makeup resources.
However I find catwalk models to be unattractive despite all the fashion business hype centered around them.
Now to be fair to them they exist to perform a specific task which is acting as a mobile mannequin.
They are there, to display the designers clothes to the industry buyers and critics, allowing their inner smile to shine through would only detract from this task.
In the real world your inner glow, or lack off, will always betray the outward appearance you have crafted with the cosmetics and forced smiles.
There was a lady, older than me and not particularly glamorous that worked in the local corner shop where I used to live. Yet despite her outward appearance, I was drawn towards her.
Her inner smile shone bright and strong.
This inner smile is the only true reflection of whether you like her are living a life of abundance.
Once you love yourself and most crucially the situation you currently find yourself in, your inner smile will begin to radiate outwards.
Now you will begin to have your share of the ‘luck’ you saw others experience and opportunities you never envisaged could come true will start to present themselves.
Is your inner smile, a flickering candle or a raging fire
Well so the first month of your new life has passed and of course this is a good day to consider how close to your new direction you are.
Of course if you look closely at the date of this post, your first question maybe this.
Where have you been igor and why have you not been posting?
As children we have a view of the world that is idealistic, no gray just black and white.
Overtime we learn to compromise and accept that sometimes conceding the argument is the best short term strategy. Of course, like many overtime this short term position becomes our long term situation and unfortunately we never look how far we have travelled.
This is a key activity for a successful life and crucially staying off the pitytrain.
In our very busy lives, it is all too easy to forget what we have in our lives and just how far we have transformed ourselves.
Having just completed a 7 hour drive to attend my sisters wedding, I sit here writing this on my cell phone.
This in itself is a fact to be grateful for.
I get to see my sister again whilst being able to connect with you, regardless of where you live and wherever I am.
The technology we have at our disposal is truly amazing when you stop and consider what a life without them would be like.
There is currently a Facebook event, created by Bill Gelwick that encourages you to do just that.
Each and every day until Christmas, take a moment to consider what you are grateful for.
With this still in your mind, create a Twitter update that ends with the hashgtag, #gratitudeparty.
It would of course be all to easy to dismiss this event as just another silly distraction.
However if you stop every day to consider what you are grateful for, I do this as soon as I awake, you will head out into the world with love in your heart and positive thoughts rolling in your mind.
Now that does not sound a silly result does it.
I will reveal the full explanation as we progress through this post but that decision was made because I felt there was little point in getting up.
Now you will be glad to hear, I do not consider myself to be afflicted with depression or any other such like negative illness nor is this a post about giving up, that is not in my nature.
Rather I saw the truth in the following famous quote
‘How’s that working for you?’
The only reason you became aware that you were aboard the train was that you felt there was something more, far too many never even reach that stage, or if they did they baulked at the challenges they saw in their new path.
However as you realize, knowing you can be more is not the same as becoming more.
You and I, know what we should do to be at our best in all parts of our lives however as we also know only too well our conscious mind does not like change and is quite happy where it is thank you very much!
I can already hear the screams of “…nothing to give….” coming from your direction, if it was indeed your sub-conscious screaming then you need to understand that this is simply a sign that your internal ranking system remains plagued by images of others success.
Rather than creating your own unique definition of success you are drawn by social conditioning to attempt a chameleon magic trick and take on the appearance of someone you are not.
Positive thinking is an important mindset that you may have lost totally or even partially however it is not your fault if you find yourself in this situation plagued by self doubt and unable to stick with any dream or plan.
In our modern world, where the spotlight is focused on just how imperfect our lives are, you and I are presented with images of others leading lives we are told we can only dream of achieving and then as apparent medication for this failure in our lives we are encouraged to laugh at those less fortunate than ourselves.
If you have been a traveller on the pitytrain for a period longer than you would have preferred, how many travelling companions have you bid farewell to with a shared promise to ‘see you later’.
Perhaps many more than you would have liked would be my guess.
If you are honest with yourself, you know the reason they were able to make their escape was that they had a plan they put into action. Now I am sure you have plans, it should not matter how incomplete they are, as long as you can see the first few steps then they can be put into action.